Many of life's problems and sorrows are inevitable, but feeling sorry for yourself is a choice. Whether you're drowning in student loan debt, or you're struggling to pass Advanced Calculus, indulging in self-pity won't fix your problems. If you're prone to feeling sorry for yourself when the going gets rough, train your brain to exchange self-pity with gratitude. Mentally strong people don't waste their time and energy thinking about the problem, instead they focus on creating a solution.
Talk to your professors: introduce yourself, ask questions, visit during office hours, and make sure they know your name. Be sincere in showing your efforts in the classroom. Your professors will begin to see that you are trying and your efforts will pay off. As a result, they will be more willing to go out of their way to help you, and you may even be able to use them as references later on.
We make dozens -- if not hundreds -- of choices every day with very little consideration of the risks we're taking. And in college, calculating those risks fall on your shoulders for the first time. It's up to you decide everything from what you're going to do on Friday night to what career path you're going to take. Often we base those choices on emotion, rather than the true level of risk. Making decisions based on your level of fear isn't an accurate way to calculate risk because emotions are often irrational and unreliable. You don't get to be extraordinary without taking risks, but it's important to learn how to accurately calculate those risks so you can make choices with confidence.
While reflecting on the past and learning from it is a helpful part of building mental strength, ruminating can be harmful. Whether you were bullied in junior high, or still can't believe you didn't pass that class last semester, dwelling on it will only hold you back. Although moving forward can be hard -- especially if you've endured your share of misfortune -- it's a necessary step to becoming your best self.